The Confused Blogger

So yesterday I found out Spreading Jam put me in their hottest blogs to watch for 2012 list.   Bloggers love lists especially if they are included so I am incredibly flattered and a perfect end to my first year of blogging.  Also Zalando did a lovely little newsletter feature on me which is added to my press section if you want to check it out.

Anyway I didn’t start this post to brag, but it spurred a thought process in my brain (yes there is one in there somewhere) that has prolonged from yesterday afternoon until this moment right now.  Spreading Jam  placed me into the Mummy blogger category and Zalando labelled me as a style blogger.

Now I thought that to be a ‘Mummy Blogger’ you have to write about children’s things, not just be a mother that blogs about other things? I have posted a couple of kiddie type things to be fair, but in a ratio of about 2% off my content. So now I am a confusedblogger.com.  I do mainly post about fashion and what I am wearing, sometimes about places I have been and press event type things, sometimes photography, sometimes beauty products, sporadically about hair and very rarely about my beautiful little Eva-Rae (I don’t want to expose her too much on the interweb).

I was speaking to someone recently about blogging and she suggested it must be a nice way to met other mums and I thought to myself  ‘is this all I am to people now’. I don’t want to hunt out other mums, in fact when I take Eva soft play I hide in the corner and have my face stuck in my iPhone.  The whole point of me writing this blog is that even though I am a mother, there is also other elements to my personality and being and I know it might be completely out of this world to think that mothers may want other things out of life.

Am I confusing people who read this blog? Do we really need to be categorised at all? Should I create a separate blog about my mother life as not to deter from my interest in fashion? Or maybe it is my niche?

I suppose there is a lot of ‘fashion’ bloggers out there and there is a lot of ‘Mummy’ bloggers.  So why not be both?!?

I think the whole point of blogging has taking a whole new direction.  I remember when I first started reading blogs it was basically an online diary of peoples lives.  Now it is all about reviews and internet fame.  I must admit I have also got wrapped up in this very quickly.  I started the blog to keep myself busy while I was off work and since my main focus in life is ‘fashion and photography’ (obviously Eva is my main focus, but I mean hobby wise). I thought I would write my fashion diary hence the name Memoir Mode.  Having a background profession in social media and marketing, I just couldn’t help but market myself and my blog and it turned into a  little task, head stuck in stats analysing, arguing with Luke because he is not taking the photo’s right/not enough.

So this post is full of ramblings and contradictions, but I have had an amazing time in my first year of blogging and its so great start being recognised for it.  2012 is about pleasing myself and keeping myself interested in what I am posting, whatever category that may be. Keeping other people interested is a bonus and thanks to everyone who has visited, commented, facebook liked, tweeted and all that jazz, it really is so rewarding when someone finds something interesting or likes something you do.

edit 22/12/11:  Incredibly on the same day that I posted this, the incredible and talented blogger that is the GSB gave me a versatile blogger award.  I am happy with that 🙂

  7 comments for “The Confused Blogger

  1. 22 December, 2011 at 10:32 am

    I love your blog, and blogging about a little bit of both is just fine (it’s *your* blog).
    I’ve sometimes felt the same though – my personal blog is now shared with the magazine’s blog (I can’t keep up with two). And I must admit it’s difficult. I have to think before I post things up.
    I share a little bit of my personal experiences and a bit of vintage, fashion trends and photography. I seldom blog about my fiance or family – it would be quite weird if magazine readers know every single thing about the editor. Haha.

    I think you’re doing just great!
    Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year if I don’t chat to you ’til then 🙂
    xxx

    • memoirmode
      23 December, 2011 at 3:08 am

      Thanks Nicole 🙂 Yes I think bloggers forget they started the blog for themselves to vent or be creative and start to worry about what will interest others. I like being a little personal, but not sure I can share my deepest darkest thoughts with the world hehe. Yep I think a mag, personal and work blog would be far too much to run. Have a fab Xmas and New Year xx

  2. Kb
    24 December, 2011 at 12:19 pm

    I definitely think you should just keep the one blog, it definitely makes yours stand out that you are a Mum, but don’t let it solely define you. I’m sure that when most typical fashion bloggers become Mums, it won’t necessarily alter their content. I post my own outfits, but I also write about exhibitions, knitting and anything else I fancy so sometimes I’m only loosely connected to the fashion genre. I would just keep doing what you’re doing; it’s amazing you’ve only been blogging for a year and have achieved so much. I think my motto for 2012 is pretty much the same as yours!

    • memoirmode
      26 December, 2011 at 6:31 pm

      Yes I think most ‘fashion bloggers’ are lifestyle bloggers anyway. The proper fashion blogs I don’t really have any interest for as I might as well just read vogue.co.uk. There are some of course that put their own spin on things. xx

  3. 24 December, 2011 at 3:25 pm

    I found this post really interesting. I think it is sadly true that as soon as a woman ecomes a mother she is compartmentalised into being a mother and nohing else. I don’t have children, and while I am sure that it is a wonderful and amazing thing that does change your life forever, I do hope that should the time come it doesn’t meant that the rest of my personality is expected to disappear the second my child is born!

    Personally if you asked me to categorise your blog I think I would have said it was ‘lifestyle’. It’s fashion, but it includes elements of your life as well – and I think more and more fashion bloggers are moving into this area – to include the other things that are important in their lives in their blogs alongside the fashion element which as a reader I really enjoy.

    • memoirmode
      26 December, 2011 at 6:36 pm

      Thank you. Yes I don’t want this post to come across as moaning about being a mother which is not what it is at all. I look at Eva everyday and feel blessed. But their is still quite a sexist view of motherhood that frustrates me. Most mothers who want to blog, blog about being a mother, which makes me wonder if thats all they feel they ‘should’ blog about.

      Yes I think I am more a lifestyle blog with a keen interest in personal style and fashion. I also prefer personal blogs rather tahn the standard copy and paste xx

  4. 30 December, 2011 at 4:50 pm

    Haha how funny that you posted this on the same day as my nominations rolled out! 🙂 Glad you’re getting accolades from all over the interwebz, you really deserve it! Frankly, I don’t know how your blog could be categorized as a mommy blog – maybe someone happened to land on a cute post that featured your precious Eva and assumed that such subject matter comprises the majority of your blog. I think most of your frequent readers think of you as a fashion-focused lifestyle blogger.

    As you know from my very own rant, I have similar thoughts about the whole blogging thing – about walking the line between self-promotion and keeping it low key, and about writing for yourself versus writing for others. Still, we really do get caught up in the ratings and stats game (and being a nerd, I always get frustrated when my most cerebral posts get zero comments and 2 views while my simple fashion spreads get a million visits and comments). This self-analysis is normal, though. As long as you’re not sacrificing content for ratings, you know that you’re okay! (And actually, one of my own goals for 2012 is to write more re: law and social sciences – to post some old papers and analyze trends and behaviors, and if nobody wants to read or comment because there’s no pretty pictures of shoes or mouthwatering cookies, then that’s their problem!)

    I also agree with you that blog culture is evolving – we’ve moved away from web diaries and toward [often shameless] self-promotion. I hope that this current trend morphs into something more interesting (like maybe more original ideas instead of blogspot’s egregious, oft-uncredited copy+pasting of obscure “artsy” fashion spreads?)<–personal pet peeve. Despite these blogs, though, there are a TON of amazing ones, those which fuse numerous elements – personal thoughts and photos with sartorial posts with fun, random potpourri. Yours runs with the best of them, and I always look forward to see what you'll write about next!

    Happy New Year and high five to a great first year of blogging to both of us! 🙂

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